...make blueberry pancakes.
I recently got rejected. Not by a man, by a job. The only job I've been excited about in a long time. I made it to the final round out of many, many people. And then I didn't make it any further.
I've been looking for new work outside my current field for almost a year. I realize I'm lucky to have a job now when other people don't, but that doesn't change how I feel everyday. I'm unhappy more often than not and it's breaking me down.
I need to be allowed to be creative, to solve problems, to make decisions, to be trusted that I'm capable of making the right decisions. I need to be respected and challenged and know that there is space for me to grow. Right now I have none of those things and I feel defeated.
This is why I haven't been dating or writing much here. I can't focus on anything else but my job search and what makes me incredibly happy. Going on so many dates with men who meant nothing to me was not making me happy. Instead I've spent quality time with my favorite people. I am truly blessed to have the most amazing, supportive friends in this city. They are from all parts of my life - high school, past jobs, comedy, friends of friends who I'm now close to - and they fill me up with love and laughter every time I see them.
Last night I was at happy hour with some of those amazing people when I got the rejection email. "Let's get do a shot," my friend said immediately after I told her. I love her for not talking about it or saying something cliche. She was just there with me in the moment.
After my shot of Jamison I decided that not getting this job is not the end of something, rather it's just the beginning. The beginning of the point in my life where I'm finally able to articulate what I want out of my career, which is something I've never been able to do. I know what I want and I feel liberated.
While making pancakes and writing this post I played this song by Jesca Hoop about 20 times. It encapsulates me right now, and her voice is strong and beautiful.
by Jesca Hoop
Held all within these flesh walls
Pair of dice and domino
Seven fingers and thirteen toes
Wind her up and watch her go
Spin her out of dust into rock and fire
Oh Holy water
Throw her to the earth
Through the burning air
Big bang survivor
Chorus- and now you gotta get it with what you’ve got
With what you’ve been given or not
And now you gotta get it with what you’ve got
With what you’ve been given or not
I was born to…
Held all within these flesh walls
Envelopes and time capsules
Mark her fingers and mark her throat
Spin her round and let her go
Send her like a cup to her mothers table
Swallow
Drink the water
Watch her play her part in a long fixed fable
Oh as her father’s daughter