Last week was the week of second dates -- second dates i was actually looking forward to -- a feat that I was beginning to think was as rare as Halley's comet and as elusive as the Chupacabra.

Second dates are confusing for me both because I can't wear my first date outfit again and I can't tell the same first date stories about myself. Also, I worry that i'm going to confuse one guy with another...especially if they're all named Brian...

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How did you meet? online

Name: Brian, the artist (our 1st date here)

Height: 5'11"

Age: 37

Occupation: artist

Good quotes from date: "So tell me about your last boyfriend. Yeah, I went there."

I debriefed him on the runaway 3-yr ex-boyfriend who just couldn't get his shit together to move up to NYC. His ex-girlfriend from this past winter was a "crazy, control-freak who tried to change him." Why do men always call their exes crazy? It's fascinating.

Did he pay for the date? yes, unlike Jack, my crush, he doesn't hesitate to buy me a drink. He takes the money out and orders. I like this forwardness.

Comments:

I played a little hard to get with guy only because I had way too many other dates scheduled last week. I waited until Friday (more than a week after our first date) to reach out and ask him to hang out again. Meanwhile if a guy i like does that to me i freak out. Yes, yes, hypocrisy.

We ended up meeting late that same night because I had a volunteer gig he was going away for two weeks the next day. I'll admit i wanted to see again before two weeks to see if something was there.

We hit up a local bar, sat outside on the patio and had a drink. He is so easy to talk to...he is open and honest and interesting. He smiles a lot which i like. I'm still not sure we have that much in common, but our personalities are on the same wavelength. I always fall for the artist/musicians...ho hum. I'm sorry, they're just sexy.

He drove me home again in his car. We began and ended our date with a hug. He said, "I'll call you when i get back into town." There is something about this guy that makes me believe he absolutely will.